Way towards nobelty- Part 2 !!

Way towards Nobelty is an story of a man, his explorations all the way from illusion to reality, facing d reality, acceptance, obligations, understanding, love etc. This article is by a man for other men, women can read it but men can learn, and if they like it, they can follow it, many might be already on the same way, so that will be good, but if someone has a true heart and never thought in this way, then can learn them.

 

Couple of years back (may be around 3-4 years),  I found a bollywood girl “ I won’t take her name, she is an actress” unlike millions of her other fans who just like them coz. She is a super star, young and dashing lady, I found her Media is trying to relating her with few of other male stars and every time she was trying to explain that there is nothing as such now who was true, if u observe both for sometime u can understand it and in matter of few months, I found that they are relating her from someone else etc..and every time she was clarifying for d same. I found a girl is fighting with d world. I started liking her in that way as what about those girls who does know how to fight with world, so accept a girl who had seen life, fought with life etc. and proved her,  I searched her in facebook found her fans page I followed that for few months, used to comment, but there were no response from her side for those months, then I decided to turn back in my life and suddenly one day, one of her admin liked many of my comments for these all months, I found some positive response from her end and it went on, I was following her profile and here a story of illusion- brain games ( many might had watched an Hollywood movie “A Beautiful Mind” something like that)  began, I started taking things positively , after sometime I became friend with her admin chatted with her for sometime also and happening over the net I started taking them positively and was thinking she is none other that bollywood girl and at the same also used to think may be her admin also..but coz of my shy nature I could not ask her directly.

In the meantime one more girl became my facebook friend from a different city in south india. She liked my first article “Jindagi Ek Paheli” and followed me in facebook, we became friends, she did not put her actual pic on her profile  any ways we chanted for sometime and coz. Of my illusions things at time I used to suspect may be she is that bollywood girl as she is an star today so she can not come in front directly so she is chatting with me from different profile. In those days I needed a girl in my life as I was often with girls around, yes never had any wrong practice just as friends but in those days after coming to Mumbai, I had drought in my life, lots of happening here and there negatives and worst and even worst so I needed someone to share my emotions I needed someone to hold my hand and will get the strength to fight with the whole world, In fact I wanted to have someone in my life I wanted to explore what happen if a girl come in life, what all physical changes, mentally changes happen in me, how do I respond to situations etc..etc..in fact I never told “I love u” to any girl before was a virgin till 24 year,  so wanted to explore a lot and finally I told “I love u” to her as off course who was chatting with me, who was interested in me, I knew that she is liking me, so expected d same and same happened also. Yes, still the illusions things were there in mind, may be she is that bollywood girl, or may be she is her admin or may be she is a different girl. And one day I decided to meet her, so on my 24 th birthday, during navratri I went to meet her, we met, all my illusions were vanished, everything was clear, it was entirely a different person. I did not wanted to break her heart coz. Of my illusions as she was honest to me. Though she was not very fair, she was an average fair girl, about confidence also I did not find her confident, she was not able to comprehend what she says, proves lacking confidence, she had communication problem with me as her hindi accent has lots of south Indian accent, so many time I was not understanding but I told to her, no probs. May be six. Months down d line, either u will start better hindi or I will start understanding her  language, so try to work out this relation.

 

I accepted her thinking we often think of getting someone better and try to ignore those who is less fortunate than us, the only good thing I found her innocent nature, a laughing doll type nature, which in fact I seen that in my eldest sister too, who was very innocent but had lots of issues to get her married as she was not very fair. I told to myself, I will train her everything. About communication, about personality that part of wearing the kind of cloths, way to talk, way u act, way u walk and lots more thing which can be taught, about fairness,  she was an average fair girl, and rest will be covered once she will get married after sexual life, after getting love from husband hormones start secreting from body which would make her more fair and rest I belong to fashion industry so it won’t be much difficult for me to make things perfect.

We continued our relations speaking over the phone daily for 5-30 to 40 minutes. A very important words I told to her to work this relation we need “understating” and “love” .  we started sharing each and everything so that she should know what is happening with me in fact my life is totally black and white, nothing was there to hide anything in fact she also promised to tell me everything and not to lie anything, we became good friends in that way, why I used d word friend here often we share things with our friends and tend to hide it from someone whom we don’t think close so instead of putting responsibility on each other shoulder why not be a friend first. In fact this concept can work in any married life also, husband wife should be a good friend first, they should be transparent to each other if anything wrong in between then it can not grow well. In this course of action, one day she told me, that when she was 12 years old, she had some child abusing instance, once with an neighbour uncle who used to call kids to give chocolate and one day, he tried for wrong practice but she was fortunate enough so before any wrong could happen, she ran away, once with her cousin when she was travelling to some place all kids were sitting behind and parents were sitting in front of vehicle all d kids were playing and once everyone slept a boy was touching her, that time she was not even knowing what is this which is happening with her, now she know what he was doing, few time  with a boy in her tution who just used to come behind her when she was leave her tution class and used to start touching her stomach, from inside her clothes, again this time also she was not knowing what this boy was doing, but she realized there is something wrong, she asked one of her friend and she said what it is and after that she used to leave with one more girl while leaving her tution class and he did not dare to do that again. And in few instances, some lesbian girls in her class with whom she used to sit, used to touch her, again she did not realize why these girls r doing such things coz. no one told/educated her what it is, how can u protect etc. but today she know what it was.

Yes, as like any other  men, it was not easy for me to digest such things, as ur women is touched by someone else also. But I did not let her know about that, I knew that life will not be easy tomorrow so be ready for everything. Now it  was time to take the responsibility as it was not her mistake or not even that, then also it was my responsibility to save the relation instead of reacting in un-expectedly, and spoiling everything that we had in between. We need to behave in a very matured way, if u need to be silent for sometime be silent and after sometime u may feel d energy to be positive for d same situation.  In fact if she shared such thing as an friend, so even its our responsibility to understand her situation and help her to recover any such trauma.

 

Then in another instances we met around 5 times in this last two years relation each with a gap of 3-4 months. We explored our sexual life also like any other couple, first time I lost my virginity in order to explore what it is, as like many of other exploration after having sex for first time I found that for men, d moment of ejaculation is d best moment,  no matter whether u r ejaculating by masturbating or ejaculate it by sex with an women, rest all r possibly d natural magnetism between male and female which bring them close to each other and they end up having sex to expand their generation, give birth to a child etc. Yes I like her words when she say “laddu mujhen bahut accha lag raha hein with all her love ( she calls me laddu may be she picked her from mujhse dosti karogi movie, she is kind of fan of kareena).

I realized that for me it was a part of exploration but being an Indian girl it was everything for her, so again there were no other ways, I could think to cheat with her, once I am done with my explorations or like many other boy who think slept with his girl already now why to get married, thinking lots of things from here and there like a girl who can sleep with u before marriage who can sleep with anyone else etc..etc. and moving out of d relation spoiling d girls life, after which lost her faith from believing anyone from her heart,   so my dear men friend, if u realize these things, possibly we can give a better life to many girls life.

In another instances, as I discussed about sex once after our sex her period delayed, she was little scared, what if she gets pregnant, I gave her confidence again, saying don’t worry, if that happen, if u want to get abortion, u can do it or else if u want to deliver the baby then also when ur parents will ask you, who is kids dad, I will come and stand with you before it could leak out to society and points their finger towards you or ur family, I will come and stand with you, why to worry, I am running anywhere ? Gave her confidence, she was relaxed, and after few days, her period started. Why I shared this instance, it happens with many people when u r suppose to stand with your partner, u just ran away from taking responsibility, what big thing in that, but people do that, but if u get a lesion from this possibly many women doesn’t  has to put their kids in the stairs of temple etc.

In another instance, we talked about our marriage to her parents,  as like many other typical religious parent who doesn’t want to get their daughter married out of their tradition, language, who r against love marriage etc. they opposed our relation.  Irrespective of knowing what their daughter choice is how d men is etc. at time even I also planned to bring her here if they try to force her, that time I got very important message “ that if I bring her here then my responsibility will increase it will not be just like an husband, I need to be her mom, dad, brother, sister everything  as everyone is important in life and have their place in life. “ Why I shared this thought, coz many of couple get love marriage without their parents and after sometime they don’t realize many things which r important in life to make running smooth and finally they end up quarreling, fighting with each other etc. and spoil their relation. So my dear friends, getting married is also not difficult but to maintain that marriage is not just play of child it needs lots of understanding, huge sense of responsibility and of course love.

In another instance, as I am talking about her parents were against our marriage and in one instance her mom ask her what if anything happen to ur dad if u move out of this home leaving her here as he is soft heart person. Next day, from her collage she called me, as were not allowing her to talk to me from their home, she asked me the same question what I should do ? I replied her, it should be ur decision, as its ur life, u should know what u want from ur life, she u spend her life with any men of her parents choice in order to respect them? She said, no I can not live with anyone else apart from u, so I told, so d answer is with you only.  When u can not live her life without me, then she should not get married to anyone else, but if she think in order to respect her parent she can get married to a man of their own choice then she is free to move out of this relation as she is coming in  my life, she has to be come from her heart coz if she has any thought like she was wrong, she shouldn’t have had gone against her parents then this things can not lead us to live our life happily. She got d answer, then about if anything happened to her dad, I gave her Bhagwat  Gita’s updesh, I told “mritun sansar ka atal niyam, hein, koin aaj marega, koi kal, koi parso, hon sakta hein, ki kal ko wo pani piten waqt pani unke galen mein atak jayen aur sasen rukh jayen, aur ye bhi ho sakta hein ki wo aglen 30-40 saal ji jayen. Agen Krishna kahetein hein ye sabhi prani toh pahlen sen hi maren huyen hein koin meren daton mein fasen huyen hein, koin meren jabdon mein, tut toh bas ek jariya ban jayega..so hey parth tu bas apna karm kar, bhavnaon ke adheen na hon…so in this context agar tum prem karti hon aur apni kartavya nibhana chati hon toh karm kar, bhavnaon ke adheen mat hon….She got another answer to a difficult situation. Now the reason why I shared this with you coz many might get frustrated and try to get their girl or boy forcefully as they had shared some emotions with her/him and dreamt few things together, so my dear friends, try to understand what ur partners feeling is, let him/her come from heart then only u can be happy or else u can not be happy u u try to get them forcefully as feeling can not be driven forcefully so love can not be found forcefully it was to from within, inside, has to be from the heart.

In fact I am open today, we can get married or not don’t know, whether she will get me or not, don’t know but I will still be d same person, ready to accept situations, which r driven from heart.

I am done, sharing my personal experience, explorations now if you think u learnt something today and these things can be helpful for u, to lead a happy and peaceful life then can implement some of these things in ur life and see d changes that u find in ur life. A very important keyword “Understanding, another Love  with only love u can not live, as days can be good or bad both and u will have to understand each other and stand together to face them, and with thing with only understanding without love u will not have d chemistry, rhythm, music of life. Another important thing, god has not made anyone 100% perfect they made some mastermind, someone fair, someone stronger physically, someone good at something else and in same way, and someone at something else so try to work out a relation u agreed on first, try to take responsibility of ur end ,coz when u know d weakness of ur partner and   try to find them in other woman or man u may find which she/he lack but even d other person will also be week at some other thing, so try to be happy with what u have and try to work out d relation as far as u can do, but in spite of this still things r not shorted then “Jindagi Milegi Na Dobara”, yes follow that movies lesion.

 

**** Rape- learn to protect urself, ways revealved ****

Have been watching on TV about the 5 year old girl’s rape..Rally, really shameful thing…nothing else..

Yes, its always my habit, to think from every side and then come to a conclusion….now from this prospect if i  talk about Sex, its an essential part of our life..we all (elder/ adult people) know that…we had heard of news before that could be somewhere some shy boy had sex with goat, dog, bottles etc. unknowingly, on the other hand we hear about some shy girls who got sexually heated and they end up having sex with their pets like dogs. etc., at time they put anything or everything in their sexual organs and please themselves again it could be unknowingly, who was not even knowing about sex….here what i am trying to tell, that sex is an essential part of life….
Yes, now in particular if i talk about men…being a men I know how a men feel, think, or desire about sex. over a period of time i found it really-really difficult to stop my desire to stop having sex. with any girl/women…
I heard few of my friends ( college senior ) who were in air force, during their training, they need to spend 2-3 months in their camp, where they can’t even see any girl…and these boys go crazy to see any girl even (((yes it might look strange, but its the truth that i heard from few of my friends ))) and even the commandants know about that, and what they do, they give their boys some medicine, to control their sexual desire……..Yes, what i am trying to tell you, sex is something that can not be ignored or stopped and being a men i know its really difficult to stop the desire and you need very strong will power to control yourself….but again i will come to ourselves neither my friends (off course air force friends about whom i talked above or me could never think of raping any girl without her wish…we r also men, then how come we can consider some in human men is raping any girl without her will…
NO, NEVER….these things should never be taken into consideration…..if anyone end up having sex accidentally with any girl, and ask soory about what he has done and try to neutralize the situation then even the girl (whose  criminal you r) can forgive you, thinking yes it was happened accidentally…..But what is GANG RAPE ?? where more than 1 men is trying to rape a girl without her will….Being in the socialized society we all even feel shame to talk about sex in front of other and in gang rape these BASTARDS r doing sex. together with a single girl ???????
……then raping a 5 year old girl oh my god ( godh lene layak bacchi ke sath rape kar raha hein, kaisi darinden hein)……yak………these acts can never be accident and no fast tract court should take a single weeks time to punish them and even they should not be given life imprisonment, they should be hanged immediately…there can not be any other way for any cases etc., fooling the system, fooling everyone etc………( this advice is for law and order people)..
Now for city people, My dear friends, Govt. (ministers) , they can not do much about it in immediate effect….who is responsible for law an order, for internal security…..yes, its police dept….but what i am seeing that, Delhi police is less into taking sever steps to stop such crime, instead they r more active to stop the protesters to stop them and not allowing them to enter into any ministers place …..so in such situation what i can tell you all, my delhi friends, i am living in Mumbai ,” here its said, that women r safe here in Mumbai…Why there r two reasons behind, one here sex. is open anyone can have sex. very easily and the second thing which is very important is Public here in Mumbai fight for them…..if any where if any girl say that any guy is disturbing/mis-behaving with  her, public beats the person like anything….so that fear is also there….that if any men try to mis-behave with any women then they can get beaten up by the public………
Yes, my dear delhi friends, if you want to protect your girls then u will have to fight for it….and you only can stop these type of in-human rape……now suggestions to girls, please be safe don’t go alone in lonely places always TRY to be 2 or more than two people together….try to be in groups as much as possible so that u, urself can fight for urself………….Kabhi Hizdon/chakko ko dekha hein, groups mein hi rahtein hein…..kun ? kunki, they knows, don’t trust anyone, protect yourself…….even those men, who do gang rapes etc..even they r like those chakke/hizhde who do gang rapes type of crime with  a lonely girl when they r together with more wild animals…..So my dear friends always try to be in groups…..
Another important clue (( this fact parents/adult, girl who already had sex. they should know this)) , when a girl has sex for first time whether its with her boyfriend or any men she get lots and lots of pain as her sexual organ is not developed properly she may get fainted also…after 1st time, 2nd time is little better, still she gets pain but at least she know d process so her body is little prepared for that, as the number of times she has sex. her sexual organs became more and more matured so less the chances that she might loose her life after such incident….if u r honest, and want to be honest with ur husband and can not think of having sex. with boyfriend then at least play with your own sexual organs and mature it by ur own……. Fathers please tell the mom to be shameless and talk to her daughter and guide her, mother please if u agree then talk with your daughter about sexual things….as that cold be the way u can save ur girls life…..It might sound strange, but if u ask urself and if u get the answer then u get it, but if u don’t then god bless u to protect ur child..
Now i am at concluding part of my article, first try to be i groups to protect yourself when u go to any public place like to catch a bus,train, ricksha, school etc.., if u r i group then there is less chances for Rape….
Public again, specially delhi/ north indian public u will have to be sensitive for ur women, fight for them as and when they need u….give the culprit good bash when they try to do such in human acts. as people do here in mumbai…
3rd accidentally, after taking all of these precaution if any such thing, happen with any girl and his body is matured to have sex. ( as the ways i said, above) then at least u don’t have to loose ur life as ur body is prepared for sex…as Rape is also sex. so if you could not stop them, let that happen and later u do justice to urself, whichever ways u think is best for u, if u want to case, then case, beat then beat, if u want to kill, kill…don’t think that if u r raped then u will loose respect in society and get into depression….more about it, u can read in my another article ” Love, Sex and Rape all r same, difference only in involvement of person”….

 

Please remember, no system can be 100% perfect, so some system could be good for few, some could be for other few…but, there can be system in which majority of the people can win, but our govt., police, democracy can never bring such systems, as they all r followers, following what is told to them….suppose if someday someone will make such system also then there can be people who would try to fool such system as majority of the crowd is good in making others life miserable in order to make their life better…
Girls, protect urself, parents, helps ur daughters, public help ur women…that it……….Delhi Friends protest will not make any difference, ministers can not help u , police can…but they r also doing then u urself help each other…

 

A Question, why i started with Sex, men desire etc.. first and then came to Rape…as sex is part of life, and no one can ignore it, and don’t try to stop it also, as that might make u more and more crazy for sex. and u may end up doing some wrong practice…but still if happened accidentally, any one can understand that, but Gang Rape, rape child ( 3-13 year old girl) rape etc. never be considered as an accident and should not be tolerated even for a single day..

 
Govt. People,  please don’t play any political game this time, like the previous protest…fast track court bla…bla…bla…NOTHING at end, that time it self i told, its just fooling people, nothing else, did the girl get justice yet………..its more than 5 months now, since that heppend…..people were protesting and suddenly, kargil war, Pakistani cut the head of Indian solder, everyone’s focus is diverted from delhi gang rape to kargil war…bull shit…..So govt. people, please don’t play any game this time against this protest…if that was ur bad politics to stop the protest…!!!!  

Guru Dikcha

You might had found in a country with thousands of religions, cast, language there r many people, or God fearing people or we can say who want to dedicate their life for God, there are few crazy people like My Punjabi Friend/room mate/child/brother or all above this my Guru, his name is Mandeep who is crazy about finding/knowing how and what is enlightenment.

Last year in december 2011 he left mumbai, to get Dikcha from a Guru in his Asharm in Prayash. While leaving, he said, he is not sure when he will be back, as he has some questions, until he find the answers to those question he will not come back, it could be a month or two, it could be an year or more, he doesn’t know about it. I said ok, he went to Prayash, they did not allowed him as he was very young for Dikcha etc., he was just 24 years that time..he spent around 2-3 months with his family and came back. But he stopped eating to non-veg. as they said, if u want to take dikcha then u shouldn’t eat non-veg food at least for an year.

So when we prepare non-veg. food and enjoy, he doesn’t eat them, but its not like he want to have non-veg. food, he has another Crazy who also ran here and there to find answers to many questions and is not part of the crowd, many people call him Mandeep baba, coz he has that type of look and even his behavior is also very good with everyone, mostly people likes him.

So when he was not eating non-veg. i asked him,” is it necessary that, we need to have an old brahmin or sanyasi to make them guru and get dikcha ” ?

Again I asked him,” u know who is my Guru ?

and i replied him, u r my Guru..he was silent for around 3-4 seconds, then he said, even i learnt a lot from u..i learn from others also…..i replied, yes very true…we can not learn everything from one person, could be few things, and many times, we learn ourselves, many times some tree, some blow of air, some waves in the sea, bubles on the wanter, innocent kids smile and many more things..when we make Guru to each and every particle in the universe that day we can learn a lot.

Now the thing is why i told to him my Guru ? coz. in jan1st2010 when 1st time he came to mumbai and straight way came to my room as a PG as my room mate, on the same night we had long conversation talking about each other, he is the 1st person in mumbai who was knowing me, what i am, whom i revealed my story. On the same night he told me few good things like – a quote of Confucious,” mujhne yeh gam nahi ki, tumne mujhen nahi samjha; balki mujhne yeh gam hein ki, meine tumhen nahi samjha”” well i really liked this word, as when people understand this, that time they can think about Jesusu words, when he was hanged, he said, hey God please forgive them, they don’t know what they r doing………so i got a big answers with this quote…..then after few days, he took his “BOOK of MIRDAD” out and showed me two lines,it was as ,” Kahtein hein, ki bhagwan ne hamen banaya and hamne bhagwan ko bana diya””” again, this was another big answer for me, as was reading Geeta for last 13 years, one day i was sitting below the open sky and thought in Geeta, there r 18 lessons and in every lesson the words that Krishna told to Arjun, that Karm kar bhavnaon ke adhen mat ho….so i thought the overall thing was this only, yes there were many more details inside but outlook can be said as above..so i was thinking, why people worship God, who saw them, why there r so many varieties of God etc..etc…but i did not get the answers that time ( 7-8 years back, i was in port blair, andaman that time, doing my college ) and finally i just decided to continue worshiping God, as there were nothing wrong in that, and its difficult to maintain any good habit, so just think from that prospect and do pooja………Now the moment he showed me, those lines from “Book of Mirdad”that “”God Made us, and we made God””” means, we know that some power/energy made us, but we did not knew what is that, but since we know there is some supernatural power which made us, so we gave them a name God, Bhagwan, Allah etc..etc..

i got answers to many more questions…i had realized that, the way we do pooja, worship god is not right, first thing is there is nothing hidden from it, so why do we need to tell/pray for it….and in 99% time we just ask something to god, to enrich u, ur family etc with good things….so god should not be prayed for ur needs..2nd thing, there can not be any time morning or evening good for prayer, there can not be any day Tuesday or Wednesday good to pray for them etc..etc…as every day is important, who d hell we r to distinguish which day is good and which day is bad…..so this way, i learnt many good things from him….

then i learnt many more things, when i read the book,” Osho-Mein Mrituin Sikhata hun”” and the learning process broaden after that, whatever i saw, i tried learning from them…

And finally  after 13 years i stopped, Doing Murthy Pooja, Geeta Path etc…going to temple etc…..as now, i remember the supernatural power anytime, no evening & morning, no tuesday & wednesday, no temple…now temple is everywhere, below the open sky, on sea shore, in my room everywhere…. I decided to put my wooden temple, murthy, Geeta etc. in the Sea Water as for many years they were a part of of my life and wanted to take them away from my life with all respect and when i was leaving from room a lady in my neighbor asked to gave her and i gave her…..Later I removed, my pearl ring, rudraksh, mom’s tabiz, nazar suraksha kawach etc..and kept them in our temple ( in our home, in andaman)…..initially i was a little scared, while departing from all those things, as these were with me for long time, but believe me today i am absolutely fine after removing them from me, today i am, what i should without any fear for rahu,ketu,grah,nkchtra etc…..rather the views changed in such a way that, we all made up of 5 elements, we all r part of same source and life is pretty good, learn from small small things to big big things,love is everywhere..

 

I would share one more instance, this january2013 i was going to Hyderabad and when i was waiting for the bus, i was singing one of  sridevi’s masti Song..a man saw me and said, waon..good energy, then we talk for around 5-10 minutes..he was waiting for bus to his city Bangalore….so, during our talks he said, Religion is a huge science..i asked how ? he said, its all about energy….i liked his words, as he said, it differently instead of saying, god, bhagwan, allah he said, its about energy……..then few more things he said like we human being are those cleaver animals who would cut the trees, they will prepare paper from that tree and on that paper they will write “don’t cut trees” …i liked his words further….then he said, no other animals need god, human beings is the only animal who need god…further he said, we just now found Bozone Particles, when we can found nucleus energy imagine what can happen…

 

So again come to point, Guru Dikcha…my friend, not necessary that your Guru should be some old brahmin, and has to from any ashram or from any temple, they can be anyone, they can be anywhere, they can teach you those things or might be you can learn those things from them which can unlock those questions which can take your sprite up……..But if you go to Temple, ashram, approaches brahmin, sanyashi etc. to take Guru Dikcha in the name of God, more than 99% of them r just fake people, who doesn’t know the 30% of basic things, then how come u can expect them for that truth which hardly few could know…

i am not telling every brahmin is fake they don’t know the 30% of the realistic things, but yes there could be possibility who had lots of studies hardly 2-5 people in the whole nation, who can tell you the right things…but believe me they don’t tell you that until they realize u worth that, as their words u might not accept coz. of boundaries that u created for urself, but u will have to find the right person..

Now, i have told to you my personal experiences, explorations etc..now you will have to decide what you want and how you will find your answers to reach to the source..$$

Nights in a Call Center..!!

Nights in a Call Center talks about my nights in a Call Center.. Well for over two years of time I worked with a call center. Though the work profile and the package was really good, in fact coz. of that I worked there. Well in my life I did lots and lots of experiments, Worked for Infosys, then came to Mumbai to try for Acting and Singing carrier, but the industry is totally in-transparent, so I worked with a diamond Export company, then tried doing some business when was in business realize that It will take time, it will not grow overnight..So I joined back a US based Call Center, so that some fixed income I can get every month and  during day I can work for my business…When I joined the company, and spend time there, I realize that “when I speak with customers, few were good and few were very smart, no matter what they had done but they speak with you in a way as of you r just a call center employee and you know nothing and they r just brilliant people, what to tell such people, that they are fortune enough that the company doesn’t allow its employees to give you an answer which you truly deserve.. if the employees are silent coz. company doesn’t allow them to answer what you want…..

Now if I talk about the employees within the organization, majority of people only know speaking English…coz they born in a city and have watched English Movies from their childhood and is good with English….nothing else they know….they have absolutely no emotions,  psychology etc.  they are just coming to work, speak English with customers, going for smoke, on weekends drinks a lots doing all shorts of aaiyashi…..nothing else….this is their life nothing else they know, they have absolute no purpose in their life… Yes, there are few employees who are good, emotional and doing their work sincerely and they are the one who are at management, or reach to the management team….When  I worked their many of the employees made fun of me, calling me Psycho,  Mad etc…I just used to smile, as I knew the reason, as I hardly accompanied them when they go for smoke on breaks, when they go to boose on weekends I always walked alone as I know my Race is different from them, I used to go for Nature walk etc…so the reason I used to smile as I realized I am much more above from them and you  what a person is seeing you from above can see everything about you, but a person who is looking a person from the ground who is above him can not see everything….so that’s how from the place I used to see them was much above than them…. But they used to think I am a fool as I am not responding to them..

Now if I talk about management team, I did  not find a really efficient management team, but since I used to know, I am working here coz. of me and my circumstance, so accept them as my managers and did my work sincerely and at time if any of my manager tried to teach me something which is un-ethical or illogical I made them understand, what I am..I made them understand that I am here as perhaps I joined the organization 5-10 years later than them, by that much time i will be in a different race…..for me its like one step back for a runner before starting a marathon race to get the energy to win the race..as after working for corporate then starting own business working as an employer and then work under another employer not coz. he lost his work as an employer rather as he followed another path to be more certain for his winnings….

And this is the way I had found people are good and bad everywhere, within the country or outside the country..few of my customers  were really good and few were bad, few of the employees were good and few were bad, few of the managers were good and few were not…

 

I was good to those who were decent people and was good to me, whether they were employees, manager or customer…accepted my position, circumstance and respected everyone at work, and those who were not good to me, how they can think that the person sitting beside them or speaking with them or is working under them can brings evolutions across the globe, people might take his ideals and would try to learn things as the way he did…. From my end just few things, I pride my work no matter what I did whether it’s a call centre job or something else, tried to do it with all dignity and sincerity…….

What to tell people, who made other life hell here and when they prove themselves then  start following them, why don’t they understand that Raja hamseha se raja hota hein, no matter where he is ,,,,, par log usen tab jantein hein jab wo Raaj Mukut pahanta hein….But any ways, we need to understand this ki ish duniya mein teen tarah ke log hein, ek dev pravriti ke, ek manav pravriti ke aur ek danav prariti ke,,,……..we had seen dev, danav and manav in tv serials and read them on books, we had seen dev very good looking, manav simple and danav black with big nails, mustache etc..but that is not the scenario today, we saw news everyday that someone has killed someone, someone has raped someone, someone did something wrong with someone…..though they look very good, could be from any elite family also, but who are they ?? they are those danav pravriti log…who would made your life hell…manav would be simple and dev would think good about you…will try to do good about you….so don’t judge a person from his look, family he belongs or from the community he is coming from….judge a person from his good qualities and respect him, love him and you will be happy..!!!

Sun Re Kanhiya, Kisko Kahega Tu Maiya ??

Sun Re Kanhiya, Kisko Kahega Tu Maiya ?? Jisne tujhko janam diya ya Jisne tujhko pala ? It is said, that Lord Krishna was born by Mata Dewki but broad up by Ma Yashodha…so now the question was whom he would call his mom…so the song was telling that storey..

We often think my mom, my dad, my son, my daughter, my husband, my wife …. And the life goes in this My..My things……..but when we look back we find there are so many people, without them we could not be doing what we r today…to grow you up there are so many people who helped you through… but your life goes in doing for you’re my..my……………..we give n- number of chances to our blood relation, irrespective of their extent of mistake they did to you and can not even try to accept one single mistake  from someone who is not your blood relation….we give more importance to your blood relations than humanity and believe me billions and billions were cried coz. of that, how come my blood relation did this to me..bla..bla…bla….Now if I talk about a person, he is born with certain things, when he grow up, he develops selfishness, jealousy and many more things and believe me its is not developed as if you r blood relative then this is not for you……why not we talk about humanity etc..and respect those people who are good whether they are in blood relation or not…Well often I give lots of example and my article goes very long, so I want to make it short..think and find what answer, you got for yourself..”””””

Why Marriage is important ??

Why marriage is important ?? yes, its a big questions, why should one get married, is it just about having sex with society’s permission or its more than this ??

SEX, is a part of each one’s life and can not be avoided, i don’t think that any one could ever escape from this, whether he/she is married or not and it will be there. From my personal experience, explorations i could realize the same, in our young age it blocks our mind like anything, it grows like, its the prime thing and rest all things come after this….Again, being a man, I can tell about man, (about woman, we listen, we study, we talk but how do they feel, they only should know it, but i am damn sure from my explorations that even they also have the similar situations).

In our young age, we encounter so many woman daily, some r innocent, some r hot, some r extremely hot, some r beautiful , each one with some good qualities, which will make you think about them, look for them, most importantly if you r single, u will look for each one’s good qualities, and when you get a partner, after that a sense of stability comes in life, but again it never stops there, still you encounter all those girls, and feel like step out of your relation and get engaged with the one, who attracts you the most. Most likely you would think of enjoying sex with others who attracts you, its natural, Sex blocks our mind like anything and can not be avoided, but my friends here is the most important thing, that i am going to tell you now, ”

our ancestors were exceptionally talented people who made such things in life, they might mad studied a lot,explored a lot, experienced a lot and after that, they decided that we human being should get married………….we have n-number of examples, that says, that in marriage, we get engaged to a particular person and create your own small world, where u can have sex 24/7 with others permission, you get kids, you get connected to your partner Emotionally, u feel obligated to your partner etc……and which is the most important thing, these obligations makes the two connected throughout the life…and helps each other to hold their hand in both good and bad time…….Another personal experience i would like to share with you all, at your good times, you might get diverted and tend to get attracted to others, thinking of having sex with others etc..but at bad time, you will only remember the one, who is close to you, and he/she is non other than your true partner, who is always for you, in your good as well as in bad days too as i used the word above “”” Emotional connection and Obligation””” yes, these r things which one would strengths throughout their life.

 

Many young boys and girls think, to enjoy sex, don’t get married, because in marriage they will have to be obligated to their partner, why should they? why not they just enjoy sex, by having new-new partner each time. My friend, as i said, its very true, that sex is very essential part of our life and blocks our mind like anything. But after a certain period of time, when you will move towards your old age from your young age, your interest will gradually go down for sex, naturally, so at that point of time if you have someone who is emotionally connected to you, obligated to you, that will help you, nothing else.The person you never connected emotionally, just had sex, enjoyed and forgot they will not standby you in your bad times, its again natural, why should they, when you never connected to them in that way, then why should they….and as i said, in your good time you will feel like going out of your relation you r committed to, but at bad time they will only hold your hand…that’s the truth…this is the combinations of my perceptions, explorations and experiences

 

Yes, exceptions r everywhere, in our country, our indian women spends their whole life for these obligations, even though many a times they do not get the love, they deserve from their partner,  but they will continue with their marriage just for their kids good future, as they don’t give importance to their life, rather they give importance to their kids life…and believe me, in most of the situations their kids would love them the most, coz he/she is looking her the pains she carried in her life …and some day, they would try to give their parent that care, which would eventually feel, that no problem, in a way i lost something  but i got so many other things and will forgot all her those pains, in front of that moment or truth,love, care….

 

So here, i am going to conclude my article, why marriage is important ?? coz, with marriage only you can enjoy the extreme please of sex,get connected to your partner emotionally, you create your own world, get kids, realize responsibilities, realize obligations etc..and in a way, you experience most of the things very successfully, that one should in their life…!!!

Is Mariage an Atom Bomb ??

Is marriage an atom bomb ? if yes then fine, but its not then why doesn’t it blast so hard ? We all know that sex an important part of each and everyone’s life whether its men, women, fish, bird, animals, plants, trees, snakes everything. Again emotions r also very important in life, we need someone to share our emotions with them.  In this context our ancestors made something called Marriage, they thought in this way a couple would be more independent to share their emotions, sexual pleasures, respect to each other and more responsibilities for the couple.

I would like add the first and foremost truth of world god had made only male and female; whether its any fish, bird, animal or human beings, they made emotions, sex etc. in them too. Now in particular, if I talk about human being god had made only men and women and rest all things like mom, dad, brother, sister, uncle, aunt, neighbor, relatives etc..we had made them..we developed many tradition, religion, language which were good, which has its own beauty, meaning, value..but we interpreted them wrongly or the people from who taught us them were not having the proper knowledge for same..which had a beauty, sweetness, meaning..we did not understand them, what we understood , to compare ourselves with  others in the same cast who is in better position in the other cast we don’t even try to respect them, accept them its not even our mistake, coz we were taught, broad up like that….so the people who had done such things they were wrong..

If we go deep into any religion, cast, language etc. we would find they all talk about love, peace, prosperity, equality, well being of humanity etc..etc…but we can never understand that, coz we can reach the basic things, coz. We always think of big thing, thinking of our growth and development and in that race we make an habit of ignoring the basic things. But it’s the truth, to know anything u need to know the basic things a tree start from their roots, a river start from mountain, a men start from a molecule of sperm and ovum. We hardly think of those basic things, we think we all know this then why this crazy “Common Man” is talking about all those basic things ? coz. What exactly I want to tell you, no doubt u all know these basic things but u never give importance to them as you think you know them and everyone know them and u move ahead to learn more which other don’t know coz. U just tend to race with other…..

I want  to give you another very good example, many times you might had seen in ur life while watching TV a person who go to jail who is convicted for 10-20 years. Over a period of time, they tend to spend time with theirselves, asking many questions and getting their answers  from his inside I mean from his soul, then spending time in reading many books possibly philosophical books, they come to know the truth of life, their desires vanish, they r like nobel personality without any desire, and when they come out of jail after such long time u find them they become like philosophers or nobel personality, they don’t have angry for others, a pleasant wave they through on u, u get emotionally attached to that person, even u know u r watching a movie..

I myself could realize all these things since I spent my life alone in my room for more than an year, since I joined a new job 1.5 years. I used to go to job for 9 hours, making some money for my day to day life come back to my room, spending time alone  in my room, asking many questions, getting their answer from within, reading books, watching movies, discovery channel etc….yes from movies, I tend to learn the good things, from their songs etc..from discovery channel I learnt about various species of organism, birds, snake, fish, animals etc..and could compare the basic things with us from them and you have been finding me when I talk about anything I include every organism in the world. Thanks to one of room mate who is working as an editor in bollywood a man from UP, he is the one who puts the discovery channel most of the time , so when he put them I see what’s happening in their world and learn things in my own way. U never know who can teach you what, or else what u can learn from everything.

In another example, if I talk about our sages ( rishi,muni ) who go to Himalayas, or in mountains, jungles spending life in loneliness in course of time  they get those answers which make them above normal human beings. Yes, I am trying to emphasize on loneliness , spending time with yourself, be with yourself, be yourself, ask question and get the answers from within ( from ur own soul) and that will be the answer. Coz, no one can teach you, until u, urself realize them. *****

Now again I will come back to my topic, “why marriage an atom bomb “ ?  as in the beginning itself I told god had created only male and female and rest all is created by us. =–

1) Most of us, has sex before our marriage but we don’t care about that, but when u get married , u r done with one phase u can not do the things u used to do or love tro do when u were bachelor.. now u ask urself is marriage an atom bomb, if yes then fine if not then why it blast so hard ?

2)  Before marriage, we have girl friend or boy friend we hardly fight , but when   we get married. The phase change. When responsibility come, u can not carry it.  U stat fighting…yes, I wrote the reason why u (human being ) fight in my other article “ We say its men made society”…yes, ur wife, or ur husband is still the same, now u ask yourself is marriage an atom bomb, if yes then fine if not then why it blast so hard ?

3) Now if I talk about parents, they can accept their child to be friend with a boy or girl of different caste, religion, language etc., they still accept if they r boy friend or girl friend, whether they has sex or not doesn’t matter to them but when when it come to marriage no matter how good the boy or girl is parents oppose that, they would try to get them marriage of their own choice , “ Now again the question to them , “ is marriage an atom bomb, if yes then its fine, if not then why does it blast so hard..

Now the last line again for this article, god had made only male and female and rest all r made by us. Those were made by us for our good of course but we take them in wrong context. Rules r made by us, we r not made by Rules. So my dear friend, don’t give so important to rules, give importance to people ur own people. Marriage is also a Rule not an Atom bomb. So don’t take it as atom bomb. No one can teach you this you will have to ask yourself these question, and the ways I told above, u might get the answer from within.*****

We say its a Men made Society ??

Women often say that it’s a men made society, where they were given less value, less opportunity, less respect, where so many wrong things r done to them by men, men dominate society, nation , world etc…But if compare each organism in the world, whether its on soil, water or in air  we will find the stronger orgasm dominate the other less stronger than them..A big fish eat a small fish, a tiger kills the other animal who r less stronger than them a tiger hardly can think of killing an elephant coz he  know if he try to kill an elephant then may be he will be defeated,  an anaconda kills the other animal, a crocodile kills the other animal or fish and many more examples.

Now if we talk about men, yes men r comparatively stronger (physically ) than women and that’s the reason in general we found them to dominate women. But that not the case always  suppose in a family if the wife earn more and is very beautiful or else she quarrels better than men then in that family women dominate men.

Now I believe that the above examples were enough to tell its always the stronger dominates the others. But very often we call it’s a men made society which is not true. If we look from the ancient time we had found that a king with more power, more weapons, more armies attack on the less powerful nation, a king with more power used to have 4-5 wives and so many other women as her slaves for his fantasies etc….sometime we found the sea pirates attacked on other people, sometime in the name of religion, sometime in the name of language, sometime for money, sometime for sex, sometime for property we always from that the stronger kills/dominate the one with less power.

Now  when women say that it’s a men made society why they don’t think that even the men with less power ( it could be physical, or financial etc.) even they has to face the same situation. At many instances you might observe decent men doesn’t go in groups, they hardly think of hurting others rather they love other and since they don’t make groups, other men (in general with negative attitude, who r in group) they would fight with the decent men, as they know they r in group and he is alone so definitely they will beat him bad and they fight…hardly you would find that when the negative person is alone that time he think of fighting with any others as he know he will be beaten too…

Yes, here we reached at the  conclusion, its not men made society, its power made society, good men always think of others good, specially women’s good and coz. Of them u  (good women) still search for a good men whom u can trust, love and can live ur life happily. Or from whom who is living a happy life coz. Of a good men only. Coz of good men love is still there in our hearts, in ur hearts…yes that’s the truth, actually rules were made of good cause only bad the negative men and women for their own selfishness they misused them and that got a different shape..Now I want to end this article by saying we had seen all the examples from all other orgasm to human being and found that always the stronger dominates the other with less power ***********!!!!*********!!!

Love : The beautiful moment's of our life !!

An year back, one of my friend was telling his love story, he said his Girl friend was expected to be expired two year ago as she had heart transplant prob.

The story began with Facebook chat Groups.

Both used to inspire each other, girl used to inspire my friend for trying hard with his acting Currier. My friend used to inspire her to get cured from her heart transplant prob. he brought love to her life, and wanted to give her all those things which any girl deserve in her life.

Both had good time even though they were  4K miles away physically from each other, both wanted just to see their loved 1 happy.

Its more than an year, and he has no communication with her, d girl who could not live without speaking to my friend, and once he received a call from her aunt and she is no more. But d love, her memories, left with my friend were unforgettable and they r forever, even as d life’s cycle rotates and some else may come in his life, but her memories r very special and become a part of my friends life.

Still my friend is expecting that, some day his phone must ring and he should listen her voice saying “Shona” I am fine now and want to meet u.

 

Someone has said it very nicely that, everyone should love someone, in his/her life, it raises one soul from normal human to Supernatural one.

 

Love, Love , Love Friends, it could be anyone, ur boy friend, girl friend, brother, sister, mom, dad, dog, cat, song, work anything, and see how ur life become Colorful.

Men will be Men…???..Insan, Insan hi Rahega.????

Why Indian has such mentality…….??? in the name of tradition, religion, cast etc. etc. they often go against Love…..which is the most beautiful thing in the whole universe…we all love someone, could be our mom, dad, brother, sister, husband, wife, boy friend, girl friend, dog, pets etc..etc…and we all know, how beautiful it is.. but when it come to someone else, may be your child, friend, neighbor, anyone….why we don’t like them…and don’t want  them to let them be happy, experiencing the most beautiful thing in the world…

If, u r brother and sister, society has no problem….if you r friend society is ok with it……but if you love truly, UN-conditionally, why sometime parents, sometime brother, sometime society don’t accept their happiness…… and in the name of Religion, Tradition, cast etc. we try to break their love………

Well i am not going to write a whole story again, if someone really want to know some truths, possibly they can read few of the articles that i have posted today like :- Paramparayen.. Kya such, Kya Galat?? in which i talked about Religions and its truths etc….then another article” What is love..Question Remains Question Mark..??? where i tried to write that, though we say, i love my child ( son or daughter), i love my husband, wife, brother, sister etc…but do they really love them……or they love them with any condition, for their own needs itself….if you have time, you can read them, and find something for your selves and like them….

 

At this point, i am going to tell you that ;” Men will be Men…….only …………. well i am talking about your (human beings) selfish nature….. you can only think about your own, you set your own path, ways, and want other to follow the same path and if they follow their own..you will make their life miserable…

Whom you left, you left no one, you are so cruel, if i talk about your gods :-

whether you call, Jesus when he was alive, you hanged him……….

whether you call Sri Ram, when he was alive, you sent him for Vanvas  and was by no one else, by his mom itself…when they were in vanvas a Rawan someone like you with negative thoughts took sita away……..

Whether it was Sri Krishna, when he born, he had to move to some other place to save him…..from his own Uncle Kansa………

In anther ways you can take these examples, as…if someone is doing right thing, you would made their life hell and when they are not with you….then you made them your god…

 

If a girl or boy love each other Un-conditionally, why you don’t help them to lead a healthy and happy life, when you know that its the beautiful thing in the world as your your self had realized it someday, somewhere with someone….to getting married to their own chosen boy or girl is a right to each and every person…as its all about their life, as two people are going to spend their whole life at time, parents thinks that, they are the best, if will find anyone for their child but why don’t they understand, they can not be right all the time for their child, even this should be their decision too…..as its all about his/her life and in fact he/she has the 1st right to decide whom to get married or not…

I don’t know, how many had failed in getting love marriage coz. of wrong beliefs, traditional views, religious views etc..etc….it could be more than 97% in our country who failed to get them married to the men/women they wanted to marry with….and untill we have a great couple ( having UN-conditional love in between), great souls couldn’t come to mother’s womb, and might be that’s the reason, we have not get a Ram, Jesus, Allah ( i mean your god) from a long time.

 

Few days, back i watched movie ” Bol ” in which at last a girl asked question to society ? ??? Sirf marna hi jurm kun hein, Paida karna jurma kun nahi hein …..paida karke, usen marne ke haal mein chod dena jurm kun nahi hein………!!

I think, every one should ask this question to your selves.

 

I don’t know why i shared all this with you, coz…how will this change your mentality….who i am ?? i am not a super star, am not a famous politician, am not a authoritative person whos words you can follow…as untill you find, someone who can be profitable to you, you will not listen to them….or else if someone is followed by many people, no matter they are right or wrong, you just assume things and follow them blindly…….No, more words, just last few…Men will be Men..!!