How to stop Addiction? It’s a tough question, isn’t it.
Almost in every house there is someone, who is addicted to something. Often people think, addiction means drinking alcohols, smoking cigarette, consuming drugs regularly but the truth is addiction can be of many type : Women often get addicted to watching TV serials, if they miss an episode, they go crazy and try to get the news from neighbors. Women’s love to wear jeweler, beauty ornaments etc. and sometime get addicted of them.
Business personals like to earn more and more money while those who has job try to save more and more money, are addictions.
Working more and more in the name of carrier, is addiction.
Addiction of social media, addiction of sex, addiction of porn movies, addiction of masturbation, or some of the other problem every family face on day to day basis.
These days, due to online studies, students were asked to have mobile phones but unfortunately most of them are addicted to online games like PUBG, FreeFire. Many students get addicted to watching youtube videos etc.
I guess, I have mentioned most of the major type of addiction, now the question is "how to stop addiction of social media", or to be more precise how to stop porn addiction, how to stop phone addiction, how to stop masturbation addiction or how to stop habit of consuming alcohols, cigarette, drugs etc. ?
There is another type of addiction, I am sure none you could ever think of till date and that is “addiction to worship (पूजा पाठ) God, following rituals you were taught”. Some day if you don’t do it , you become anxious, what that means ? It means, you are addicted to it.
After finding all the major type of addiction, now lets try to find the ways how to stop addiction and get out of them. Well you might met many alcohol/cigarette addicted people who says, today is their last day, from tomorrow they will never touch alcohol/cigarette, but you were disappointed when they could not, and finally you might got fed up of their promises of stopping their addictions.
Why, that happen ? Is that they do it willingly ? Or perhaps none of you know, how to stop addiction & get out of it ?
Procedure is simple : Nothing happens within a day, you learnt things gradually, something became part of your life gradually. So the process of un-learning them is also the same, it need time. Something that become part of your life, can’t be left as easily as you promise someone and you think you can fulfill it.
No, not at all. Never say, from tomorrow, you will stop something forever which is very important part of your life till date. When you say that, psychologically there is a feeling that from tomorrow something you liked for a while, something became very close to you, something you liked to do daily, will no longer be part of your life from tomorrow.
This will create a deep wound inside your heart which will break you even with the thought of leaving it. And most likely you come across people going through terrific time going to comma or many even commit suicide, while trying to stop their addiction.
How about, instead of leaving things forever, you say, “for TWO DAYS you will not use that thing, after two days again you can have it“.
In that way, psychologically you send message to your brain that, ok, its just a matter of two days, after two days again you can have it. In this way, emotionally you are comparatively stronger than saying leaving it forever.
Though, in two days, addicted person get the pain of not using what they are addicted to, but remind them, its just matter of two days. Don’t leave them alone, spend time with them, so that they have no loneliness where he/she feel the need for their addicted thing.
After two days, allow them to have what they are addicted to, means you keep your promise. Emotionally they will think you understand them, their situation.
This way, you did not stop their addiction all of a sudden, but you increased their WILL POWER. For two days, they could control not using the thing, they were used to.
Practice it again, in a week or so for another two days, then increase the number of days gradually. Slowly you are teaching them how to live without what became part of their life. You are teaching them, how to un-learn what they learnt and got addicted to.
Remember, you are here to experience things, experience everything, but that should be in your control, instead of getting addicted to it. Once things are in your control, use them as and when you need them.